Learning to Detach

[peacetoday]

There is no real clear cut path here
everyone may have ideas
but what Ive learned from my 2 years here is nothing really works b/c it is a crises
so for me becoming less available to my XH didnt make him miss me
or come home
maybe it helps them see what life will be like without us
maybe it helps them move on in their crises
dropping the rope helped me move on and made it easier to NOT be emotionally connected to H
I started only saying Hi and Bye and I left a lot
no smalltale no business talk ect.
No talk --things like that..H would withdraw --so the R becomes very dead when we stop communicating
no one knlkws how your H might react
he may withdraw more
he may seek you out more
You can try these techniques , then notice what they do
The crises will still run its course

many of these mlcers saw us as mothering maybe thaat was part of the problem in the M
when a child grows up they leave home?
You are doing well thoiugh
hang in there
peace