It's Complicated! Part 6

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GG, Well, stompity stomp stomp for him.

H seemed to expect me to pay for things for his apartment. I mean, what do you do with THAT?

He is doing better now in that he is not blaming me--I don't think, anyway. Also fairly reliable with paying. Confided money problems to me once. So sad, too bad....

I think a lot of us on here wound up as the "mommy" or "daddy" with a rebel teen child. I babied H waaaaaaaaay too much. This puts us in a position to be rebelled against.

I have learned that that sort of relationship is very unhealthy and codependent. We cannot really restore things until we relate as adults. This is why we crash and burn, I think.

I had so much of hte responsibility that H never really had to grow up.