I am not saying it is only porn. He may very well have a new girlfriend. He is on a diet and working out....he told me so over the weekend. Which is ironic since I started my diet on Saturday...
The pastor's point was more that, as long as he is involved in porn, he won't change. He said constantly viewing women as 'sluts' basically, will warp a man's perspective over time. He will not value women in general, including me.
So if/when we are D he could have girlfriend after girlfriend, or one night stand after one night stand, etc etc. But he won't have a loving, real relationship with anyone as long as he is in this pattern.
Ali the pastor wasn't going to fix him of his attraction to porn. He wanted to talk to us about our marriage and help if possible. Or to talk to Dan about Jesus because as much as Dan professes to be a Christian, he is walking a path that is very non-believer-like. We all fall short, I am a flawed person too, I know that. But I try to look to the Bible to show me how to live my life and he claims he believes everything in the Bible too but he sure doesn't live like it...He said he thinks Dan is lost and needs to find God/Jesus again regardless of anything else. And that Dan KNOWS that, which is why he is ping/ponging back and forth. He knows what he should do, but he feels powerless to make it happen.
Anyway thanks again, everyone, for your thoughts and support. I was going to tell Dan tonight when he came over to see the kids before going to Canada tomorrow. But now he is not going to Canada so he didn't come over...I may call him later and tell him. Not to get a reaction but he needs to get his ducks in a row and we both need to figure out the best time/place/way to share the news with Nathan, that we are not getting back together and are getting a D.
