Makes total sense to me. Like many have said. You are the only expert on yr R on this board. The rest of us can only offer suggestions.
Thank you. I however carefully consider everything that is suggested and appreciate everything that is suggested and try to apply what I think will work to my sitch.
She has stated that she doesn't want our old marriage--I understand this. She has some valid points and I've pointed them out where I've been lacking--i.e.--she wants attention from me and to not be taken for granted--hey, she's right, I didn't give her the attention she needed.
Now, I know what everyones going to say. Yes, I know she cheated on me. I have forgiven her for that. Do I know if she's still w/ OM or not. No, I don't but she has been in contact w/ him but she has been in contact w/ me more and D more recently. She has been a lot more open w/ me and a lot less hostile. I don't know. Bottom line, I miss her and want her home--I hope everyone can understand that.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!