Got cut off - to continue -main issue beside the drinking was H not being adaptable to living with others. So when the drinking stopped he initially wanted to stay separated until the kids moved out. AT the time he wanted me to have the kids move in with their father. I didn't feel good about doing that so we were still not together. Three weeks ago H called to say that he was realized he was wrong, the kids and I needed to be together and since he wanted to be with me - he was going to work it out to come home and be more accepting of the situation.
As it turns out - D got a scholarship to live at school and S dropped out of college and is working. S plans to move out on his own. So far everything is working out.
I am here in piecing because I still have "trust" issues, and feel we need to rebuild our R from the ground up. My biggest fears are that he will start drinking again and stop the meetings, church and therapy after he moves back in. His concern is that we had had a strong loving connection before - and he still feels the same - I am distant. He understands that I need time to see and hear that things will be different.
