No Hollywood Ending......BUT...Happily Married

[addie]

There were 2 schools of advice I received when my Husband would come to visit.

The first was to basically show him that I had moved on and to be detached and business-like. To have someone else pick him up at the airport, for him to stay in a hotel, and for him to make arrangements to see the children outside of the Marital home.

The second was to be loving and kind. To look my best when I picked him up. To have the house in order and make him feel welcome in his own home. To cook his favorite meals and to basically leave him with wonderful memories of home for when he returned to his MLC-life, 3000 miles away.

I chose the latter, which was the harder of the two.

BND,

Interesting you should post this. For the last 11 months H and I have been living 2500 miles apart. Although H's PA has ended, he has continued to contact/pursue OW but says he does want us to work on the M. In that time H has come to visit 6 times and has usually stayed for about a week each time. I have also received a lot of advice about having H stay in a hotel. Each time I've allowed him to come and stay in our home. It hasn't always been easy but I think it has been the best decision for us.

Each situation is different and sometimes you just have to go with your gut feeling.