You may not believe this but I have had many experiences as I have gotten older where I do not O. I can't quite get there or I poop out for whatever reason. It's funny but many of those times have been very satisfying experiences with lots of connection. It's the "enjoying the ride" thing. Usually when it does happen we have gone for quite some time and she is very satisfied by then (or worn out rather ).
Of course I do usually finish myself later on... just because it feels good.
DQ - I think the best comparison for a guy to understand a gal's POV is the difference between the urge to f*ck and simply laying back and receiving a nice BJ There is something primal about intercourse vs. the more civilized simple receipt of pleasure.
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