Tom, you did the right thing and I am sorry if it is difficult. You are so good with and for your kids. I don't know you, really, but your goodness shines through.
Focus on the job search. Try to make good differences for your brother. We need him to like you living there. Start a garden! I am garden obsessed and I want all of my friends to be as well.
No matter what, know that an oldish goofy girl in Wisconsin appreciates you very much.
