WAW, progress than setbacks... need advice

[MrRegret]

We both have our problems. We like to argue about little things too much. We went to counseling before, and it worked, so I know those things can be fixed again, fairly easy. (Though she feels since it did, but we went back to "bad" that counseling did NOT work.) Counseling worked, we just did not keep it up. Anyways, the main problem, in her eyes, and the reason why she left, is because of my temper. We both get mad, and may take things too far, but then I go another level. She cannot stay with me if I cannot keep my cool, so to speak. Yes, she is a master at pushing my buttons, in my opinion, but I still should not go in such a rage. These other things, us going out as often, me spending time with the kids, etc... are complaints she has, and yes, she said she has been trying to get me to realize all this for a couple of years. I guess I never really saw it, or she did not try enough, who knows. All I know is, that I want my family, and my anger is key. The other things, I am trying to do while GAL. I am beginning to realize she is not mad at me for now doing all these things, I think she is maybe a little jealous or mosre correctly, hurt, that I am doing what she wished I would have done in the past, but I am doing them now. (Ummm, my problem is, isn't that the whole point?!) If she would just realize that ok, I was that way in the past, but I am trying to do things differently. (I know, it takes time)

I got another update, but no time right now to post it. I will try tomorrow.