Actually surprisingly, I am a girl who loves Hooters! (The restaurant) I love the original wings or the chicken sandwich with HOT sauce. If my nose runs, it's hot enough...
Actually surprisingly, I am a girl who loves Hooters! (The restaurant) I love the original wings or the chicken sandwich with HOT sauce. If my nose runs, it's hot enough...
Hi Bbj, As long as the H doesn't get anything really HOT in his eyes?
John, I think the hurt and anger resurfaces from time to time if my experience counts for much. There will be occasions when you can't help but feel the pain of a D that you did not choose - when your daughter is exposed to things, when you do not get to see your children enough, when the exW continues to do hurtful things, when you have to say goodbye to huge sums of money (one time and often monthly for a long time) that the WAW makes off with which either gets squandered or ends up in the hands of an OM, you will feel betrayed and used/abused and all the useless efforts to "save" it just adds insult to injury, I could go on and on. All that you are doing now is good but really just bandaid but you do need this to keep your sanity.
Hey FB2, if this is the bandaid, at least it stops the bleeding. You are probably right about the "occasions" but I am hopeful that they will slide as opposed to sticking like they have done in the past. The hurt and anger can't last forever...is this what I envisioned 10 - 15 years ago? No, but i'll be damned if i will let one single person (my XW) on this great earth control my happiness. i feel sorry for XW but no longer feel sorry for myself. i know that i can be happy (maybe even happier) without her in my life. She made choices. i happen to think they are wrong choices. if you talk to her i am not sure she would agree with me. Time will tell...but i am not sitting around waiting....And time waits for no one, and it won't wait for me....
<< I am hopeful that they will slide as opposed to sticking like they have done in the past. It depends on how much you have invested, sacrificed, hoped and dreamed with respect to the M.
<< She made choices. i happen to think they are wrong choices. if you talk to her i am not sure she would agree with me. In fact I am sure she believes she made the "right" choice. Even if she doesn't she will pretend she made the "right" choice.
<< Time will tell...but i am not sitting around waiting....And time waits for no one, and it won't wait for me.... If time won't wait for you why wait for time?
I know "Sponge Bob" bandaids make my D8 feel much better, so I guess there are special one's for big guys too ;-) Somehow I always believed that human beings were not like wild beasts with respect to mating practices, but after seeing all these sordid 'sitches' I don't know what world I was living in all this time.
Anyway I think you have an excellent healing attitude!
Hey FB, I can tell you that I invested everything in my M, sacrificed quite a bit, my hopes and dreams were all related to my W and D8. I am almost embarassed to admit it. Nobody, not my family or friends, not you or the other folks on this board know how much I was invested in this M...financially and emotionally. I don't want this to sound bad, however, my investement went south. Just like my stock portfolio. I had no choice but to cut my losses even after I averaged down on several occasions. My stock will never ever see the highs that it did. That is hard to take. But i can either stay stuck or move. I have decided to move on....and as you know it has taken a while. I have given my stock all the chances in the world to come back too life....one day it may, but I won't own it! I am a little confused with the wild beast reference and mating practices...are you referring to me or the WASs who stray while married? I can assure you that I am not a wild beast.
"I am a little confused with the wild beast reference and mating practices...are you referring to me or the WASs who stray while married? I can assure you that I am not a wild beast." John, The WAS that stray while married - yes I believe this is wild beast behavior, esp. when there are children. I don't know about you, but a lot of LBS's seem to think that 2 wrongs make a right in this regard - in fact I have got advice along these lines even from friends and while my analogy is perhaps a bit extreme I don't quite buy it. Perhaps humans can learn from geese http://animals.howstuffworks.com/birds/geese-mate-for-life.htm/printable
Oh well I was on Skype with my brother for quite a few minutes and K's post crossed with mine. I guess that explains it John - the wild beast thing ;-)
