YES!!! I so agree. Having to go down the road again is very scary. Wow 2 1/2 years that is long and scary. But change does come slowly I guess at least permanent change does. I say because I'm not sure I can hang so long. But gosh I didn't think I could this long either. I am very nervous about H ping ponging again. His son is there so I know we have to make tons of adjustments and plans with that too. And I'm afraid that that involvement to whatever extent we decide on will make H capable of ping ponging again.

I soooo know how you feel mdoodles. H hasn't even come home as yet and still I get nervous about him coming back and going back to the way things were. It's funny how the battle continues.

By the way mdoodles, I'm from NYC as well.