Drawing a line and grabbing the seeds!

[faithisbelieving]

Thanks for keeping me in your thoughts. FIB

[cire2]

kinda funny
cire



Have you ever been guilty of looking at others your own age and thinking, surely I can't look that old.



Well . . . you'll love this one.



My name is Alice , and I was sitting in the waiting room for my first appointment with a new dentist.



I noticed his DDS diploma on the wall, which bore his full name.



Suddenly, I remembered a tall, handsome, dark-haired boy with the same name had been in my high school class some 30-odd years ago. Could he be the same guy that I had a secret crush on, way back then?



Upon seeing him, however, I quickly discarded any such thought.



This balding, gray-haired man with the deeply lined face was way too old to have been my classmate.



After he examined my teeth, I asked him if he had attended Morgan Park High School .



'Yes. Yes, I did. I'm a mustang,' He gleamed with pride.



When did you graduate?' I asked.



He answered, 'in 1975. Why do you ask?'



You were in my class!', I exclaimed.



He looked at me closely.



Then, that ugly, old, bald, wrinkled faced, fat-assed, gray-haired, decrepit son-of-a-bitch asked, 'What did you teach???

[cire2]

Been quite awhile since i've posted something about R for me. I've been living with GF for 6 mo. or so and it's been having some turbulence. This has been expected, and I feel kind of stupid for even posting this.

Fast forward much drama till tonight, she moved out a week ago and the last time we spoke was 4 days ago on her b-day. I'm detatched because i've been here done that but my mind races as you all can imagine. The problem in my head tonight is the phone call I received. A man stating to be her husband called looking to speak with her. .... in a nutshell he said he was her husband and wanted an address so he could send paperwork for their divorce, WTH.

I'm at a loss and my mind is running in overdrive! I'm in total shock by all of this and am at a loss as how to proceed. Needless to say being quiet and dark can't hurt at the moment.

Just looking to to bounce some ideas...

cire

[faithisbelieving]

So...YOU were the OM? and NOT BY YOUR CHOICE, ay?

Crap.

I would discuss it with her if you have a contact number.

Remember our main issue here as men...communication.

FIB

[cire2]

OM, yes I guess I was.

I did get the story though. It seems she is married but should have had it annulled because while she was dating him he got her really drunk and then married her in vegas. Imagine that...

She hasn't been with him for years and wants him to take care of the divorce. She never would have married him in the first place.

As far as we are concerned it's difficult at times. She says she misses me and wants things to work and then pulls away. This is difficult and all to familiar.

cire

[cire2]

Just a little perspective I ran into, guess I needed an adjustment.

cire

1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.
3. Buy a DVR and tape your late night shows and get more sleep.
4. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement,
'My purpose is to__________ today.'
5. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
6. Play more games and read more books than you did in 2007.
7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, tai chi, and prayer.
They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
9. Dream more while you are awake.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
11. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds & walnuts.
12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
13. Clear clutter from your house, your car, your desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.
14. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires,
issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
15. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away
like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
16. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a
college kid with a maxed out charge card.
17. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.
18. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words:
'In five years, will this matter?'
26. Forgive everyone for everything.
27. What other people think of you is none of your business.
28. GOD heals almost everything.
29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
30. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friend will. Stay in touch.
31. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
32. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
33. The best is yet to come.
34. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
35. Do the right thing!
36. Call your family often. (Or email them to death!!!)
37. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements:
I am thankful for __________. Today I accomplished _________.
38. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
39. Enjoy the ride. Remember this is not Disney World and you certainly
don't want a fast pass. You only have one ride through life,
so make the most of it and enjoy the ride!

40. Please Forward this to everyone you care about.

[cire2]

I'm at my wits end here. I love this woman and yet I seem to revert back to some old ways. I've been insecure and not trusting.

This is the GF that I was living with since november and she moved out a couple weeks ago. I have been given the opportunity multiple times to show her changes in me, but I end up screwing it up. She now says there's no trust left and she can never get it back.

Once again I feel the need to pursue and talk but when I spoke with her earlier she got very emotional. She went from tears to anger quite quickly, saying to me that we were done and she wouldn't put herself through that anymore, and why would or should she trust me?

I feel as though i'm at square one on this site again even though... arrrgh!

Can I get some advice here? Since i'm immersed in this i'm probably not thinking clearly.

Should I avoid contact? She had stated she couldn't see changes that would help with trusting if we didn't see each other, but she doesn't want to see me also.

I really need some help with the DB 101 or basics since I seem to be floundering.

cire

[faithisbelieving]

Never hurts to go back to basics and reread. FIB

[cire2]

Believe it or not ,
These are Memphis , TN 's REAL 911 Calls!

Dispatcher : 9-1-1 What is your emergency?

Caller: I heard what sounded like gunshots coming from the brown house on the
corner.

Dispatcher: Do you have an address?

Caller: No, I have on a blouse and slacks, why?

Dispatcher: 9-1-1 What is your emergency?

Caller : Someone broke into my house and took a bite out of my ham and cheese
sandwich

Dispatcher : Excuse me?

Caller : I made a ham and cheese sandwich and left it on the kitchen table and
when I came back from the bathroom, someone had taken a bite out of it.

Dispatcher : Was anything else taken?

Caller : No, but this has happened to me before and I'm sick and tired of it!

Dispatcher: 9-1-1 What is the nature of your emergency?

Caller: I'm trying to reach nine eleven but my phone doesn't have an eleven on it.

Dispatcher: This is nine eleven.

Caller: I thought you just said it was nine-one-one

Dispatcher: Yes, ma'am nine-one-one and nine-eleven are the same thing.

Caller: Honey, I may be old, but I'm not stupid.



My Personal Favorite!!!

Dispatcher: 9-1-1 What's the nature of your emergency?

Caller: My wife is pregnant and her contractions are only two minutes apart.

Dispatcher: Is this her first child?

Caller: No, you idiot! This is her husband!





And the winner is.........

Dispatcher: 9-1-1

Caller: Yeah, I'm having trouble breathing. I'm all out of breath. Darn....I
think I'm going to pass out.

Dispatcher: Sir, where are you calling from?

Caller: I'm at a pay phone. North and Foster.

Dispatcher: ! Sir, an ambulance is on the way. Are you an asthmatic?

Caller: No

Dispatcher: What were you doing before you started having trouble breathing?

Caller: Running from the Police.

[cire2]

And the drama never ends!

Since my last posts we've been back together and life was good, only to find myself back in the familiar place of WTH.

In a nutshell she has left again and won't tell me why. In my confusion of this I have done all the pursuing no no's. She did text me some on saturday after no contact for almost a week. It wasn't very friendly and she said I owed her some money. I went to her work later to pay her and she said that wasn't the point. She bartends and this was a beer tab of 10 bucks. After some small talk I asked her to dinner on sunday and she accepted along with a movie.

So on sunday morning I get a text telling me she tossed and turned all night and we shouldn't be together or go out to a movie. WTH again?

Of course I backslid again and tried to talk via text but to no avail. She's not talking again. I'm trying to be dark but its hard, I'm a fixer.

Could this be the "element" she associates with at the bar? Some of her friends from there deal meth. I hate that and know she's done it. I've confronted her about this and she said she'd stop.

Can I believe this from her or are these crazy moods and rollercoaster rides a part of this?

This has me questioning my own boundaries.

On another note I had contact with XW after almost 2 years and a restraining order. That was weird, her friend, her and myself ended up at her house untill 5 am talking. Wow! Seems we can be friendly and her friend thinks we will end up together again. Not sure where that comes from but hey lifes sure crazy for me now.

I'd sure like some feedback here its driving me nuts again.

cire