Newcomer, want to keep my hope alive!

[iwantittowork]

Alright, I am in need of serious guidance..

I new this was going to come, but man does it hit hard.

The W just sent me an email, she setup an appt with the D mediator on May 21st, about 2.5 weeks away, then asks if that is ok with me. I have not responded to the email yet.

I want to talk with a L on my own first, so I setup meeting with one on the 15th.

I am not looking to turn this into a battle at all, but want to keep some dignity of my own going into this.

I still want this relationship, but I know that I must let her go, but how do I not be the doormat? What should I give in to? What should I stand my ground on?

This sucks.