ok, I hear you. Yes, I did pursue. I know there is a fine line between being honest and pursuing. I want to be honest but I don't have to share all my feelings with her. I don't want to turn her off to thinking that us getting back together is an impossibility. She has stated emphatically that she knows she was cruel to me in the past. She said she knew that she had some changes to make. The big thing right now is that she's not sure if she wants to come home. I am not pushing her at this point and will not but I don't want her thinking through me actions or words that I don't want her back. I hope you can see the fine line I'm talking about. I want a shot at being married to this woman for the rest of my life. I have seen remorse and regret. She has admitted that she has done the wrong thing. She said she still loves me. It's like I'm so close but so far away at this point. I am NOT discounting what you guys are saying though. Is what I'm saying making sense?
Makes total sense to me. Like many have said. You are the only expert on yr R on this board. The rest of us can only offer suggestions. All I am going on is what u write. She is saying that she wants to come home but is not sure. That is smoke screen for I'm not ready to commit. I'm still unsure of what I want. So thats when u say. I understand how u feel and definitely dont want the same marriage, but know that I have my needs and wants as well. I have determined that I want u in my life, but dont need u. Then ask her what her needs and wants are?
