The road ahead, it's so complicated....#8

[Rob1231]

IC would be helpful for her. Maybe you should try and engage her in it, through MC (that's how my H went for a while, he was refusing to).

I agree, maybe IC is a good idea, if she's willing to give it a try.

Think of it this way - one thing you have learned was that two people who are unhappy as individuals can not "MAKE" each other happy. Happiness starts with yourself, and then becomes something you share with the person you love. You've GAL'ed your butt off, and it's gotten you here. I think W needs to learn that same lesson. Encourage her to GAL herself - so she can be a happy, self-sufficient PARTNER in your relationship, rather than an unhappy woman who clings to your M because she can't figure out what else to do.