Atrologically, its Pluto square Venus.. unhealthy obsessions and power struggles. I still believe the only way to win someone back is to REALLY let them go, respect their decision and let them feel the full force of it. Becuase then they really get to face up to what they have lost hey ! Takes a while (tis taken 18 months for my ex to realise what he is missing and he's STILL not back). Also, I am yet to see a sitch on these boards restored through the power of prayer alone (SGCTOX, how about you?)
What happened with the rest of the convo anyway?? It was pretty full-on !! Is that a breakthrough for you two, have you not had R talks like that before?
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Ali--
The rest of the convo is here now. This was a huge conversation. We have not discussed our R at all since the bomb. Even our brief stint at MC did more rehashing than focusing on current and moving forward.
I have pretty much let go. I am prepared to move on without him on our lives, but I will not ignore my marriage vows.
I don't understand the astrology thing you posted about, but I do not think we were having a power struggle. It could have been, especially if I had reacted the way he expected me to. In the past, in a deep convo like that, I would have become emotional, crying, yelling, doing whatever it took to gt his attention. Instead, I stayed very calm, looked him in the eyes, did not use defensive body language, spoke in a low, even tone and never raised my voice, an although my eyes filled with tears, I never cried.
I know you are not religious, but understand this--when a person is willing to fully turn their own life over to Gods, it will affect all who are in association with them. the changes that it makes in a person--mentally, emotionally, spiritually and even physically--are patently clear to see.
I met with my pastor about 30 minutes after this convo with DH and pastor was amazed at my calm and strength, despite what he knew had to have been a very emotional encounter with DH. He sad that watching me grow in Christ has been a blessing for him as a pastor, as he clearly sees the love of the Lord shining through me. Others have also told me the same thing. I just know that I am happy, at peace with my life, and content to wait upon the favor of the Lord while living my life according to His will.
Living God's blessigns with grace and dignity~ SMW
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