It's just that, the validation I've been giving her is pissing her off! When I say 'I can understand how you would feel that way', she would respond with "you have no idea how I can feel this way"! She says that my responses are "nauseating and disgusting"! They are rather different from what the old me would have said! I'm kinda up a stump with this?
I used phrase that too much as well. So learn to say it differently. "I can understand how me doing ___________ would make you feel that way." "Then help me understand how you feel because I truly want to know." Find your own words, make sure you are looking in her eyes when she talks and sometimes don't worry about a response just listen. Don't try to fix anything. You can handle it. Cheers
Coach! I always enjoy reading your posts! Keep in mind, these conversations, when they happen, are over the phone or texting. Do you think it'll still work...using this approach... over the phone, or texting?
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
