One more thing he said 35 yr old men, 90% of the time cannot/will not go 7 months without physical intimacy so if we haven't had any he is most likely getting it from porn, strippers, or a new girlfriend(s).
Said that truth be told, if he had this problem before we got married ($1500 in credit card debt from phone lines), that his intimacy with me could have been more about sex than intimacy...ouch.
Didn't say much that you all haven't said at one point or another. But I have been in the spin cycle of love/support him more vs. kick his butt to the curb. ANd I got too dizzy...
Pastor said there is another choice. Calmly and maturely tell him it is done b/c he has chosen to walk away, I am just making legal what he has already ended physically and spiritually.
[BTW Pastor also offered to counsel us both and wants to see our marriage restored/healed. He didn't tell me to get a D. He just said that I needed to understand that as long as he is hooked into the porn he can never be hooked in to me...That he would have to make the choice to put me ahead of all of that--work, cows, farm, the kids, etc etc.]
