I am following sis, I just know that some things happen when we/YOU are ready and only then. Otherwise, we get the feeling we are doing the wrong thing. If you are "content" with the path you are taking (and I support you 100%), I am glad you got there because what you have been doing sure, as you said, didnt bring you any closer to a happy M.
Stay strong and...get those pon pons out girl!!! Love ya K