Funny, I was reading your latest and you posted to me... Well,you got there, told the kids, she is moving out... I love your attitude about the marriage not been over. What's you guys are doing sounds like a controlled separation. It is I guess much esier to deal with, than a sudden, full of anger separation with "THE END" being repeated over and over again thru it.
You sound good and I am glad you are in such control. I cant help thinking how I felt AFTER I calmed down, (it was The Secret actually that got me back on track, funny how a simple idea of "controlling" what happens to you thru faith and strong desire can really be so helpful, it was to me at least). I remember my fear was that once H was out, he would get too complacent and would never want to come back because he "would get used to it". That fear ruined many of my nights. When I finally let that feeling go, I felt so much stronger.
I do, still believe, and call me naive if you wish, that things will always turn out as they are supposed to and in your case, I still believe you need to be strong, confident and her friend. Nothing else, the rest will follow.
As Andrew Marshall says, or someone I read-too many to keep track- "Couples appreciate Love more after getting to the point of feeling all is lost for ever". xxx K
