I do not want to monopolise all your time, but if you get a chance and give some feedback on these events.
Thank you PM,
Just to update. On Friday night I picked the children up and my wife told me there was some mail, though what she REALLY wanted to tell me was that there was a letter form the county court. She did not say it, the fact there was a county court stamp on the envelope told the story. I thanked her for giving me the mail, at the time a girlfriend of hers/ours popped round for a chat. I greeted her and she asked me how I was, I responded positively without gushing, she asked if I was going down to the gym which I responded to. Without being arrogant she had obviously noticed which was great for my confidence.
On Saturday my daughter and I had an a small disagreement which resulted in my daughter leaving a voivemail message on my wife's phone at 1000 pm on a Saturday night. The phone was switched off, there was no response from the landline which meant my wife was out all night (which she was). My mind was going into overdrive again which I tried best to banish, then I had a talk with my daughter who then rang my wife again and said she had apologised.
On Sunday (today) I have hust returned from my childrens fun run. Before we left I made sure everything was done including suntan lotion, the only thing I forgot was to bring a jumper for my son. I somehow managed to sign my son into the under 6's rather than the under 8's, but as it is a FUN RUN it doesn't really matter as long as they take part. As a part of my Anticipation thought pattern I thought I would ask my wife to bring the camera to the park to take some shots. She never responded to my text which was unfortunate but I was still pleased I made the effort. When I met up with my wife in the park she barely said a word to me, I had been doing weights at home first thing in the morning, put a crisp white tee-shirt on and looked pretty good. I asked her if she was ok which barely got a response, whereas I was upbeat. I then said I was going to get a hotdog for my son and I asked her if she would like a cup of tea, which she did. By the time I got back she seemed in a better mood and became quite chatty. She still wanted to chastise me for forgetting my sons jumper and the fact I signed him into the wrong race, but before I could say anything all our friends around said it's only a fun run and it does not really matter. I asked her if she had the childrens weekly schedule with her that I had asked for so that I can help in advance, but she said I should know what it is by now. I validated that (as I had done in my text) but said I much prefer to have these things in writing so that I can plan better and be more helpful in advance.
On reflection, I think my wife was expecting me to be in a bad mood because of the court papers, the fact I would have known she had stayed out all night and the fact I was very happy spending time with the children and friends threw her off-guard which resulted in her being more responsive. Small steps, small steps.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
