Separated & OW coming into picture

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PM thanks for that, I will think about how I may be able to bring this up.

H was having some other problems as he left as well, things that happened in his childhood regarding his father leaving, and things about himself and issues with death and being alone. H came to me 4 weeks after he moved out(I hadn't seen him in that time) and started crying about how bad he felt and how hard things were. He said he thought about talking to someone (IC) about things but didnt know if he would. I tried to support that decision. But since that night when asked about it he says he decided not to and was doing better and didn't feel he needed that now. I don't know how to talk him into getting help.

H admits he always had a thing about not wanting to be alone and stated this is why after he left he made sure he was alone and not jumping into another relationship. but I said its only been 3 months 'alone' and all the while you had regular meetings(even if as friends) with OW. so when were you alone?

One of the main points he made when he left was that he wanted to be on his own for a while and be happy with himself.

when you say you did what WDID suggested is that the confronting suggestion?

gosh what a mess my head is in.