Separated & OW coming into picture

[hopeful_cb]

thank you WDID for your input. I appreciate the insight from your experience.

H had made it clear that he does not want to work on M so does not see that as a option.

H also thinks I need to stay married to him even if we are separated to stay in the country, so said to me if I need that he is happy to keep it like that. (I don't really think this is the only way.) I moved to this country to be with H and for his work and have now built a life for myself, have a good job, etc. He said our M is only a piece of paper.

He has said about being friends but that he doesn't know if that will work bc we are too close right now, things are too fresh and that we may need time apart before that can happen.

I haven't really decided what to do yet. I feel like I need to talk to H more about things and what is happening. I don't know if that is the right move tho.