Be careful with the Marriage Fitness stuff. I followed that for 3 months, and it really set me back. It takes an approach of pursuit, which is the direct opposite of DB'ing, and in my stitch, it just pushed my W away. It seems like a good book to follow when both partners are willing to work on the M, but when one has checked out, I think it causes more harm than good.
Hi Song and thanks for the heads up. I wasn't planning on using any over the marriage fitness stuff at this point, simply because it feels more like something that should be used when a couple is together. I just wanted her to read it, maybe ignite a small spark in her heart and try to show her that there is always hope. Right now the communication between us is very limited, although starting to build up again since she met with her lawyer, any communication between us at this point I'm letting her initiate and just trying to keep myself focused on DB'ing methods - especially the last resort. Even on Saturday when I dropped S3 off, she was the one who invited me in and started to talk to me about everything. Although I must admit, it was I who asked for the hug when leaving and surprisingly she was willing. It was so nice to hold her tight in my arms once more.
Me 35 W 30 S 3 M 7 : T 13 yrs Separated 2/20/09 My Story
