Sunshine, there is absolutely no empirical evidence that MLC even exists. I know I'm in the minority here, but I just don't buy it. Clinical Depression, Personality Disorders, PTSD, character flaws, immorality, f'd up core values....yes. That, I believe.
And just because a WAS may have any of these symptoms, it doesn't mean they can be cured or "loved" into coming back. Almost all of them will never come back, psych problems or not. They just want out.
I think that staying here in the MLC forum is keeping you from even beginning to move on. You keep looking for any little sign that this may be "MLC". Why? Just because you think it has a better prognosis for your ex to return?
You keep saying how lonely you are, but it seems that you have a church you enjoy, lots of friends, family, and a job. That is a lot more than a lot of people have right now.
You just miss your ex. Most of us do, and it will take a long time for the pain to dull. The sad thing is that what we wanted back wasn't good for us to begin with. It's just that it was what we were used to. We had messed up relationships. Again, most people do. The D rate is very high, and those numbers are just the ones who actually got out.
It is very rare for anyone to have a "wonderful relationship" these days because we all expect the other to "meet our needs". Wow.
What ever happened to just accepting each other for who we are? That, to me, is the real question.
