Everytime I want to approach her or initiate some sort of physical contact I question if she wants me to do it.
You won't know unless you try. Why do you continue to try to read her mind? You're overthinking this. You try, you get shot down, then you talk about it in MC. Right now by avoiding your MC homework, you won't move forward - you're allowing this situation to stay stuck.
Your MC is being clear, your W is saying she wants to work on things and do the homework - then do it. Seems she's going to MC for an hour or so, then everything goes back to 'normal'. So how is this healthy?
Maybe I'm off the mark, but I feel you're still tiptoeing around. Not that you need to be brutal about this but it's going to get a little more uncomfortable before it gets better - you both are crossing some sensitive bridges.
