There are no guarantees that I can break the cycle, indeed all I may be doing is putting off the inevitable to a later date, however what I have decided to do is to tackle things head on. So if I see something I don't like I will bring it out into the open, I won't ignore things and I won't bury my head in the sands, and I won't wait to see if things blow over as a passing fancy. If I see it I will deal with it.
On the other front I won't be doing things just to make W happy, what I hope we will do are things together to make the M improve and hopefully by doing this we will both be happy. I did tell W that I was done on several occasion this weekend but as she replied that she wasn't done then we have to talk.
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This weekend W and I have been talking in depth, we decided that just the two of us talking will be better than any MC. W has been more open than before but not quite an open book. At the heart of the problem is a loss of passion in the M and her loss of desire for me, also in her opinion there is my lack of tack or subtlety in me trying to get things going again. She says there is the tendency on my part to try to go for the kill, dive straight into her pants everytime, instead wooing her. So as Kalni has mentioned she panders to these guys to get the woo factor, they in turn massage her ego and make her feel good and the fantasy builds from there. Then poor old me is left in the real world paying the bills, looking after D7, feeling desperate and sorry for myself.
So we are talking more on this theme to see where we go from here. The only let down for me on this part was at bedtime I put my arm around W and her response was to say "how can you go from saying the M is over to wanting to hold me, the turn around is too quick". Well I said, we've been talking, we've watched TV together and you invited me massage your feet, so I hold you now as a natural progression as tomorrow you may decide you won't talk to me and I didn't want to miss the opportunity of physical contact.
Oh I have to add this bit, W has a little woman's problem at the moment which requires cream to stop her feminine itch, well last week W asked me if I would apply the cream down below which I duly did. So when we were talking last night I told her that she has kept the "goodies" hidden from me for a long while, and now when she does show them to me they are in a poorly stated, not fit for anything naughty. Well W cracked up laughing, so did I. But she did reply and say that she wanted me to see that she did have a problem and wasn't just holding out on me.
We talked about other things but I can't remember them all, but going back to wooing her, I said obviously you give OM's the chance to send rude emails or talk dirty, should't you be inviting me to do things along those lines if you are serious about us putting back some passion into them M. And so we talked on.
Talking seems to be good for my health, BP has dropped from a highly stressed 165/105 to a normal 135/75 doctors have given me the sound advice as to avoid stressful situations. Thank you doctor.
