yes, must remain strong........I am finding it easier step by step everyday. had a bad day yesterday, my H flipped at teh fact that my Mum and I were taking D7 out for teh day with friends; would be home by 5pm after which I said that he could take her and put her to bed. He completely lost it and started to say that I have no right to say this (gee, I dont know, you have deserted me and my D, are having an adulterous relationship, have left me in financial chaos with no offer of maintenance but I have no right to take my daughter out for the day?) and started to warn me that he would fight for our D until his death, over his dead body would I succeed. He then came into our living room, with me in attendance and proceeded to lie to our daughter; "Daddy cant see you tomorrow because Mummy will not let Daddy do that. It makes Daddy very sad but Mummu is stopping Daddy from seeing you". Then, the piece de resistance, he walks into the kitchen where my Mum is, who asks him what is going on. He replies by wagging his finger in her face:
you have f*$%^ed up your daughters life and you are f$%@�ing up your grandchilds life. I have always been D primary carer, your daughter has never been her primary carer and never will be. Then re repeated the first line again and stormed out of teh house.
My mother, who is the most loving and giving person.........I am appalled.
I do not believe that my H is well; either taht or he is one of teh most selfish, rude and nasty people I have ever met. He can not possibly be happy, with OW, with his life, with what I am sure is a registering of a loss of his family before his eyes.
But enough is enough. I have to protect myself and my daughter now.
He has made his decision; that involves consequences.........my only aim is that he doesn't come back to the house......and that he can be stopped abusing me and my family in this manner.
My prayers are that we are all going to be safe and well.
Thanks for your help guys...... By teh way, the court hearing on Thursday was adjourned, by me, because I wanted to spare H and I the trauma of going through a court battle. that said it was agreed on teh grounds that he would not sleep in the house, that he would only be in the house for a period of 2 and 1/2 hours at any given time and that our D was to be nowhere near OW. He agreed to the terms.And that the protection order is still in place.
Looks as if he has breached those conditions now so things are now very serious. I have made a statement to the police and have been told to apply for a barring order tomorrow.
I cant and wont be humiliated any more..........
Any advice, I really appreciate everyone's input, thank you so much
