I think it is important to not enable him. If he is ashamed of his behavior toward his family, and he should be, then he has the opportunity to change it. For you to hide it to save him face is enabling behavior, and will just prolong your agony. He is wrong when he says that your relationship should be about the just the two of you. It is, and should be, about the whole family. It hasn't been about the two of you since the kids were born. You accept reality and think like a mother. He does not accept reality and thinks like a single person. He is not even thinking about two people. He is only talking and thinking about himself. I'm proud of Sydney for standing up for her question. It's a very good question and he needs to answer it.
