Ahhh...Another lucky contestant on the DB board. Welcome to hell. Will that be cash or charge? Our divorce was recently completed and it does suck when you know that the clock is running. I found that I was mainly freaked out the day before. After that, the 'pressure' eased up dramatically on me. Thankfully, I didn't have to go to court. Anyway, I remember reading here somewhere that marriage is just a piece of paper and so is the divorce document. That did put a lot of perspective on the situation and helped to keep me from panicking for lack of a better word. I also have read that many couples do get back together after divorces which also helped. You can lose a battle and still win the war so to speak. That is why I am still here. I know you're hurting, but if you have any notions of getting back together, DO NOT argue or freak out with your H. I did not do the begging and pleading with my ex, but she knew that I wanted the marriage to still work. She probably could easily sense it and I took a bunch of crappy behavior from her in the months leading up to the D which I believe is just as fatal as begging. In other words: don't let this happen to you. And if it does go through, and you still want to try to work it out, well, thats why this forum is here. A divorce date is not necessarily the end of it all. Its just a battle lost. Hope this helps.
