Alright, the W went to her lawyer on Thursday during the afternoon, she wouldn't let me seem him Thurs night - no big deal I had backup plans with friends. She did say that she retained the lawyer and that her lawyer was contacting mine to make arrange visitation until court. Friday evening I called her wondering if he could sleep over - she wouldn't let him, and I later found out that she dropped him off at her aunts to go out to movies with her cousin. She said didn't your lawyer contact you - no not yet - why what's up? - She said I could see him Saturday but wouldn't give me any details, just that she did not fill out any paper work for D. About 30 minutes later lawyer called, the W's lawyer contacted mine - deal is normal custody every other weekend and 2 night for dinner on off weeks. Then my lawyer told me that the W had withdrawn the custody papers, but still wants to go through with getting a D, but her lawyer is too busy until next month to file anything. Good news for me, I guess, gives me about 30 days to try to convince her that I cn be the man that she wants in her life. Saturday was a great day with the son, we went to library to make a mothers day gift for her from him. Spent the rest of the day playing and took a walk on the beach when the sun finally came out.
When I returned him at 6pm Saturday, she invited me, I went in figured it would just be quick, truck was even running in the road. She and I spoke for almost 1 hour, that's how i found out about her going to movies. Not sure what else we spoke about, I just tried to validate everything that she complained about me.
On Friday night when we spoke I asked her if I could drop off a book for her to read. She agreed, so i dropped t off, the book was by author Mort Fertel, Marriage Fitness: 4 Steps to Building & Maintaining Phenomenal Love (if i can't say that here please edit post). She took the book and just looked at the title. When I dropped S3 off Saturday night she had told me that she already read half of it and found it interesting - commenting that some of the things in the book she used to already do.
So here I am today - trying to stick to the last resort, and trying to keep myself in the dark and resisting the urge to contact her.
Sorry about jumping around so much in the post.
Me 35 W 30 S 3 M 7 : T 13 yrs Separated 2/20/09 My Story