Future, thats why you make it the truth! Dont lie, hasnt there already been enough dishonesty? Actually make other plans. Can you pick up a new hobby? Do you need any continuing training for work?

How would she react if you told her that you would rather plan an evening out, a movie, or dinner or whatever. I totally know that if my H invited me to do something I couldnt say yes fast enough, so you are already doing better than I am! So, I know that sometimes (or often!) its easier to give advice than to take it.

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...