K guys... As a woman, I feel like maybe I can point out some things to you. Heres my disclaimer: Im not trying to make excuses for anyones behavior, only to maybe offer some explanations that you may not have thought of.

You mentioned that your W was wearing perfume and was made up. Dont we tell people here that when you arent feeling good, make sure that you look great? Even the men, make sure that you are shaved, smell good, wear clean clothes. And with the underwear thing, again, Im not offering anything but my point of view here, I have been told right here on these boards, and I have told other people to go out and get some sexy new undies. I dont think that men have the same relationship as women with their undergarments, but when women have a pair of panties that they know look good, they just feel a little bit better.

Maybe shes doing some reverse DBing.

Im sorry that you are having a hard time right now, and I think that we all wish that our spouses would just stop what they have been doing. But keep growing and being an excellent father. You cant control what she does, just make sure that you are in control of what you do.

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...