Yeah PD, i think i just get frustrated at this slow moving process. I doubt i will completely close the door on her although it would make my life a lot simpler. I stay mindful of the fact that no matter what im always going to have her in my life in some fashion or another, and if she did take that step forward to grow up, she would be great.
Right now she is a 32 y/o woman who lives with her 80 year old grandmother, she leaves the two stepkids with granny so she can go out 4 nights a week. Her oldest daughter has some bad emotional problems that granny isnt strong enough to deal with. Grannies health is fading and I seriously feel sorry for her having to deal with all 3 of those children.
She let our house go, spends all her time and money on partying with her single friends. it is 5 months that she has been doing his now with no signs of stopping for any reason. The kids have been abandoned, Im glad that i have the little one. I would take our stepson too if she would let me.
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.