"This is an importent point that took me a long time to finally understand and embrace. If you love her, give her what she wants, which is her freedom. If you have to, think of it as just for now. One thing is for absolute sure...right now, and for the near future, she wants to be left alone. No doubt about that. The fact that you want to keep trying to talk and plead and convince is actually very unloving and selfish because it's all about you. It's incredibly hard to stop trying to force things because you want your pain to go away, I sure understand that. She's made it totally clear how she feels right now. Respect her wishes. Let her go. THAT'S THE ONLY WAY SHE'S GIVING YOU TO SHOW HER THAT YOU LOVE HER, SO TAKE IT. Be strong for your kids. No matter how angry she is at you, she knows the kids need you, and if you're a good and solid father, she'll respect you for it."
I've given this a lot of thought since it was posted to me, and it sure helps to get a perspective from others...THANKS. Nothing that I've been doing has made anything better, so, as hard as it's gonna be, I intend to do this! And to do it better than at any time so far! It's scary though!
I don't intend to initiate any contact at all, except what's absolutely necessary for the kids, and I'll do that with text messages that are short and to the point.
What do ya'll think?
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
