Renee, Your xh would have promised you the moon to get you off his back. They all do this...they lie, they tell us what "we" want to hear and then do the opposite. It's the script. You are holding on to a conversation that is in the past and may not happen again. You need to concentrate on the here and now and come to understand that he doesn't want to communicate w/you, nor have you in his life in any way, shape or form. He's involved w/another woman and quite frankly, right now, the age doesn't matter to him, as he's being stroked and admired by someone younger who is looking up to him and doesn't know his life's history. She is only seeing the new him, not the him you know.
Renee, find a way to let that conversation go. It's in the past and start trying to live your life in the present. There's nothing you can do to change his mind about his situation nor the way he's looking at you at this time. There is no guarantee that the marriage to this young lady will last or be destroyed and you can't gamble on it not lasting....it could very well be one of the few that survives the rebound, but we do not know this. I know it's difficult to let the past go, but you've got to do so in order to live in the present and yes, plan for your future.
Who knows what may transpire in the years to come, you and your xh may become friends or be able to be in the same room and have a good conversation about your son. But, that's a long way down the road and something we can only hope for right now.
Renee, this is your life, this is your day...plan something enjoyable to do today.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
