Great work Mark. You are doing great. Pro-active with kids, but not pursuing wifey and best of all, no arguments. Arguments are a waste of time right now especially with someone who is angry to begin with. Just don't go there.
Your mindset is much better now, I think. It's good to have a goal. Again, things take time to develop, to calm down. You can't expect results right away so just take it easy. Just do the things that you can do. No need to rush here. I know you have a timeframe in mind. But really my motto has always been, 'It's not over till it's over' and 'Nothing is final except death'.
So take it easy, do what's on your list. Cool the pursuing and enjoy the children. You are on the road to happiness, I know it.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09