Thanks for the throughts and replies. I'll be sure to check your thread lost-n-Iowa. In a sense, it does feel better that your not alone in how you feel.
Originally Posted By: lost-n-Iowa
I know some of the things that may have led up to my H's cheating but either way he still made the decision for himself.
I keep trying to convince myself of this fact. It was not perfect, and there was a lot I could or have done that did not help along the way. But I didn't make the choice to stray. Sounds easy. I'm looking very deep within myself to try and figure it out, since I don't have the answers or even help from her. Some things are obvious, some not so much!
We are seeing a pro marriage counsoler this Thursday. I'm looking forward to it. I THINK she is too. I have been trying to find a pro marrige counsoler from almost day one, and at most, the soonest we could be seen was the end of may! It appears we are not the only ones that need help!
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Perhaps she may feel like you will ridicule her, not understand, get upset, take it the wrong way, or that she doesn't yet know why she did what she did. (Not saying you will do any of these things) A MC may help bring it out in discussions.
Probably all of the above in some form! Great point. I just want to understand.
This is probably going to sound dumb, but on top of working out and running, I am getting a different haircut, dressing better instead of just thorwing on a tee shirt and hat, contacts instead of glasses etc. I guess doing things that will make me feel better about myslef, just for myself instead of doing what is routine, normal, and with someone else in mind 24x7. Sounds selfish.
