Everyone - Keep your head up, read my story

[judyc]

My first post to this forum was last Saturday, the day after my H moved out. I was, of course devastated, but decided to keep a PMA, and not feel sorry for myself. My H is a great guy, I have no contempt, he became unhappy after 16 years of marriage, but no one is to blame. Yet, I still can't imagine living without him, and he does not rule out a reconciliation.

So, four days later (Tues 4/28), another stroke of bad luck happened to me. I was sound asleep, and around midnight, I was awakened by a loud bang. I smelled something, looked outside, and was horrified at the sight of my gas barbeque grill was engulfed in flames, and spreading fast to the deck. I called 911, got out of the house, and to make a long story short, fire department came and a couple of hours later the fire was extinguished. My cats are OK, but the fire damage to the roof and attic, and smoke/water damage to the house render it unlivable. And, yes, my H came to the scene as soon as he got my message. I will be staying in a hotel for a couple of months. Alone. My cats are staying in the house in an undamaged room, and I visit them every day after work.

Getting through this will be the biggest challenge of my life. But, I can and will get through it. My house will be better than before, and my marriage will, too!

[aliveandkicking]

Sorry about your troubles!! I didn't quite get how your H behaved under the circumstances...anything different?

[judyc]

Thanks, a&k. My husband came to the scene as soon as he got my message (was in the middle of the night). He is doing everything he can to help (well, after all, it is HIS home, too.), but he is also offering me moral support as well. He stayed with me in the hotel that night. He feels that if he hadn't moved out, the fire would not have happened, since he always did the grilling (I used to burn everything whenever I tried to grill - I guess I lived up to my reputation, this time I burned my house...)

[hopeful_cb]

Gosh can't believe that happened to you! you must have been pretty shook up. I'm glad everyone was ok. It is bad timing with everything else you have going on but I am glad to hear that your H is being supportive.

Well at times like this I like to think to myself, 'it can only get better from here'

Its also helpful if you keep posting in one thread so we can follow your story. Maybe you can put a link to your original post on here so we can read your background and history of your sitch?

Try and keep positive it sounds like you will be busy sorting the house out.