In the spirit of the board, and wanting to contribute myself...
It has been a quiet couple of days. Trying to focus, and stay focused. It is hard when you are a instant result type of person!
One thing that has been helpful was to work out and run. I have not done that for years (like 15!). It felt great to know I could still do it, and I'm making myself better and happier for me while trying to be patient and work the problem.
She really wants her space, and work things out in her head, and does not want to talk about it. I don't understand that, but I want to do that and be patient, but it is NOT one of my strong suites. So keep busy I must.