Need to really make changes for me (thread #3)

[mdoodles]

thanks puppy, im honored to think that you think i made a good point, i always valued your opnions...

i just think that sometimes our spouses are looking for our attention, to see that we care, even though they dont say so, even though they are doing really crummy things that would make us not want to give the attention.

i really took the attitude of h left, he can call me and that totally backfired. yes h is back now, but maybe it would have happened sooner if i did things differently.

i think each situation is different, there is no set way to win them back. i sometimes wonder if in the end, it doesnt matter what you do or dont do that is going to make the final decision on the marriage working or not. if anything, its all about timing. if u find your spouse softening, that is a good time to call alittle more often, or do the things u want to do to show them u care. if u are miles apart, i would step back but still show u care about the marriage in some form.