so...
W calls...

W: is D around you

Me: no

W: where is she

Me: in her room playing with her friend

W: where are you

Me: in the backyard working

W: well what im saying is i want to talk to her

Me: ok hold on im getting her

I ask D if she wants to talk to mommie she says no, I ask again she still says no.

Me: ok she doesnt want to talk right now too busy playing with friends

W: ok

Me: ok ill talk to you later

2 mins later I get a text....

W: What u hate me now or something?

Me: no not at all

End of conversation

I was very nice on the phone with my tone of voice and i was in the middle of something which i told her at the begining of the conversation... Hope this stuff is working...