It should be easier this time... #62

[sandycay]

I don't think your have high expectations at all Maria. I think they are average at best.

I mean an average person (man or woman) would want to have sex with someone he loves or is attracted to after 7 months. You've laid in the bed together. That's such a primal connection to another person and relationship. But then when we were seperated and I occasionally got the longer hug, I could tell my H was still attracted to me....there was something between us (wink, wink) know what I mean.

Your not looking for a Harlequin Romance Novel (don't know if they have those there but they are over the top here) your looking for something.. anything and there's not really been anything since the beginning of his coming back.

Have I missed something? What has he done? I know he went to MC a few times but those were not productive. Your "date" that you placed has come and gone.

Your H is overwhelmed by his life and doesn't know how move forward. The pressure from work and family has him frozen so he's an ostrich....(puts head in sand and hope it all goes away)

Maria...your spinning and cycling and that's not healthy. I know your afraid, but last summer you weren't afraid.... why are you now? Your the same person with the same abilities.

Your situation is no different now than it was before then. Nothing has changed except for a few moments your H seem to have a change of heart, but he does not.

There's a book here and now the made it into a movie...it's called "He's just not that into you". I know this is going to sound harsh and it isn't meant to.. but you've been saying it all along too.

If he wanted to be in this marriage he would be putting forth more effort because if a man is into you.... How do they act? Not like your H.

I say all this with love to you because frankly, I would like to give your husband a swift kick in the @ss, even though he is a nice person.

Don't you settle for this type of relationship Maria or you'll be doing this for the rest of your life.

And honestly, if he ever spews like that again could you say to him "how about a nice cup of shut it stew?"

Hang in there girl!