It seems to be working.... sometimes #2

[sandycay]

Whoooop! I've made it everyday since Tuesday being chipper and upbeat on the phone. I have had to push away the negative thoughts and cheer him on. They have had big welcome type events when the 777 has landed at various airports and in the past I would have been pissy about it. Now I say "Why don't you call me later, go enjoy yourself". I can say at first I could hear it in his voice the hesitation (like he didn't trust it, but I wasn't saying it in the old pissy voice) Guess what? he calls more often and is texting me constantly.

I have initiated most of the hang ups on the phone instead of lingering....

When he was telling me of his hotel room ... Big King bed and at the bottom of that a step down area with a couch and chair facing big windows with a view of the mountains in Santiago.. I was able to truly say "Oh, that must be beautiful". This is where I struggled in the past causing him to feel guilty (Prebomb) because I was envious being stuck at home with two kids. I let that envy/jealousy ruin my old marriage.

Anyway, later I sent him a text saying that it wouldn't be long until I can join him on more trips once the kids are gone to college. He replied .. he is excited about that too .. (we have 6 years till youngest is in college, but remember he flew me to India last summer for two weeks right after we first got back together). I will certainly try to join him on a few between now and then. It's just expensive because we have no family close so we have to fly the kids to stay with family and then my plane ticket so it can get pricey.


26 days to go... but I'll just focus on today's goal. Be supportive of my husband and his job.