WAW1

[markhaving probs]

PM,

Thank you again for your imput. I am so pleased you like my Anticipation List as it was my first go, I suppose it means I am on the right track. Also reading your posts I can see as a positive bi-product of the commitment to the children is the way my wife in time would see a HUGE 180 as identified when I was collating list of 180's with JCJ. I know I am not doing this to show her I have changed but I think I can understand how 180's can be accomplished without it looking so obvious, particularly with the children as you have identified. We have just finished an 8 mile bike ride and picnic, I am now taking them to trampolining and am going to cook them a lovely spaghetti dinnerr tonight. I have also asked my daughter if she would like a friend to stay and her friend has excepted so I will have three children tonight which will be great fun.

As soon as your your first post today, I wrote down and sent the following text to my wife...

Hi Suzi, please could you bring with you tomorrow the childrens weekly schedule and times. I know I should know it by now, but if I find I have time to help you pick up or drop off the children, I can give you plenty of notice to arrange it. Me.

I have just received a response 'OK'.

Not sure what to have expected but my concern is for the children, and I certainly would not have expected a gushing response.

I hope I worded it correctly as in my view this shows anticipation and pro-activeness. Asking for the schedule also shows consideration for my wife and the childrens welfare, it does not show pursuing and lastly, I control the times I can assist, meaning I am not seen as a doormat. I hope I am reading this whole way of thinking correctly, I am sure your wisdom will tell me otherwise.

When I was at the marital home my wife and I made sure either of us read to our children at bed time, we found this was a very important way of bonding and obviously was educational for them.

I will now study the rest of your second post on my return from trampolining.

Thank you PM, you are a life saver and my children and I will thank you always. xx