I really really like your anticipations list. That's really terrific. You are SO on the right track. Now give yourself a HUGE pat on the back for being an awesome dad. Keep it up and parenting will be a breeze for you as you're such a quick learner.
You also asked me two very thoughtful questions, they are very good ones. I think lots of people have these on their minds as well.
Firstly as per schedule. I wouldn't ask for HER diary of movements per se. If I were you, I would ask for a copy of the KIDS schedules. e.g Monday afternoons - baseball, WED night - ballet, Sat mornings - fun run, Sun - friend's party. Stuff like that so in case you get them on a particular day that is out of your ordinary prescheduled time, then you have an idea of who to take where and when they will have dinner etc.
Here is how to ask your wife for it. E.g. I want to make this separation as smooth as possible for the children. I have asked them what they would like to have here at my home, may I suggest that I have a copy of their schedule every week so I can take proper care of them and get them to where they need to go on time?
What she does is none of your business. She is not 'yours' anymore and if you keep looking for clues and such it will only hurt YOU more. So stop it cold turkey.
Keep up your good work and focus on the kids.
As for wedding bands. Either way it doesn't really matter. Wedding bands can come on and off, they can be lost and rebought. What really matters is the committment, not the piece of gold on your finger. Do what feels right to you. There is no right or wrong. That is only my opinion anyway.
You are on the road to a very rich, fulfilling life, Mark. I can totally see it. You are one determined dude and you and your kids will reap the rewards of your determination.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
