Need to really make changes for me (thread #3)

[mdoodles]

i have to tell you, in my situation, when h first left, i didnt even know about divorce busting. i didnt even know he was having an affair. but i decided right then and there, if he was leaving, i will not call him, he can call me. and i stuck to it for a very very very long time.

and u know what, he said something to be months and months later, about me not calling. he said, "i didnt see u calling and fighting for me when i left".

my point is, sometimes it is ok to call. i thought i was being tough and not calling was going to win him back. truth is, atleast in my situation, my h wanted to see me fighting for him. in his opinion, me not calling meant i didnt care that he left, i didnt care if i spoke to him or not. which was so not the truth, but that was how he saw it.

i dont know that this helps u in any way. just thought it would make u feel better about the times u do call. its ok once in a while.