Heck.. sometimes my closet anal retentiveness comes out.. I get so fricking literal!
Keep that black humor to add a twinkle to your eye and radiate that smile.
So many thoughts.. so little time..
I was told that our divorce was fast because it was under a year from the time the papers were served (March 17). It was done 50 weeks after the bomb (mid January). As your friend knows, divorce takes time.
What is coming out is insecurity on both your girlfriend and your daughter. You decide the boundaries, take care of your kids.
Both your daughter and your girlfriend can learn to remind themselves of the positive actions you take. Confidence comes from believing in themselves, from seeing that you follow through, that you are consistent. They learn to reassure themselves about the reality.. rather than fear.
