Maybe he doesn't want to talk about it too much because he knows deep down he is being a grump and spoiling 'your' night. After some sleep he may be able to explain it better. Having you dance for him is one thing....being in that enviroment is another.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
so, the question is....what did I learn at Retrouvaille that will help me with this situation?
Sara,
If I remember Correctly the purpose of Retro was:
1. to be able to express your feelings 2. to be able to understand your partners feelings
Right?
Seems you understand his feelings already. I would not try to drag anything more out of him unless he gives it on his own. You can express your feelings so he understands where you are comming from and maybe he will feel more open to express more of his..
Doc
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Thanks, guys. Yeah, this too shall pass. But I wasn't that nice to him all day yesterday, so that compounds it. I hope we won't lose that Retro feeling. If we do, we will have to go back. There is something to just seeing those people. We become so cooperative and gentle with each other the minute we walk into any event they sponsor.
I just caught up with the thread. Thanks for sharing so much about the program. There is no Retro session offered in my state at least for a few more months - but we're probably not ready yet. I'll be waiting patiently and when it's time we'll give it a try.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
Glad to hear that you will give it a try. It's only offered 3 or 4 times a year in any place. Here in Florida we often have people fly in for the weekend, and then take a day or two at the beach too. The weekend is a revelation and well worth the effort, wherever you do it. I need to start preparing for the next session here in Tampa, it is later this month.
Sara, Thank you for pointing me towards this thread. Retro sounds very encouraging, I hope W will agree to attend. The next one in my state is the weekend of 9/11 (spooky).
I have a question for you and anyone else who can offer advice.
Do you think it is better to ask W in person to attend, or to send her an email?
I see the advantage of asking in person being the sincerity and gravity of the request, however it also puts her on the spot and may elicit a knee-jerk response of no.
Sending an email takes off the pressure of being cornered with the request, gives her the opportunity to read about it, think about it and give an answer after consideration, yet it is impersonal and can be ignored if chosen.
