This is great! Well done.. I am GOBSMACKED though... even after all the contact I have had wuth my ex, last year.. there is NO WAY I would have seen him in the kitchen cooking for us?? Thats so wierd.. he's hardly been in your space since he left you, really odd of him !
So I am curious, how did you handle it? Did you chat to him? Smile alot? Act 'as-if' ? Make jokes? Drop a few hints about your new great exciting life? (Ok, we have to fake it a bit, but whats the harm !!??) Or did you stay out of his way (wathed the news, or was that him??).
Keep on extending that hand of friendship silver. You are still in stage 1 I would say.. Jody says that stage 1 is all about reducing feelings of guilt and shame in teh WAS.. so letting him feel comfortable to see you/talk to him, without him feeling like you are gonna lay some big shame/guilt trip on him.
Dont forget though, that also, she advises meetign AWAY from the house if you can.. so if he wants to meet you to dicuss these propisals.. try and meet somewhere (a bar? for dinner? or lunch? Where would be a 180 venue for you? what would be refreshing and surprising to him??). Just a suggestion.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
